Wellness and Support

• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:  1-800-273-8255 (TALK), Call 24/7/365, Website: suicidepreventionlifeline.org; The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals.

• 2nd Floor NJ Youth Helpline: 1-888-222-2228, Call or text 24/7/365, Website: www.2ndfloor.org; 2NDFLOOR is a confidential and anonymous helpline for New Jersey's youth and young adults. If you are between the ages of 10 and 24, live in New Jersey, and need to talk about an issue or problem that you are facing, call or text anytime.

• The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7326, Call, text, or chat 24/7; To text - type START to 678-678; Website: thetrevorproject.org/about; The Trevor Project provides crisis intervention and suicide intervention to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer & questioning (LGBTQ) young people under 25.

School Counselors
Three full-time counselors (distinct from our college counseling staff), including doctorates in psychology and a licensed social worker, are readily available to meet with students or parents separately, or speak with families together about challenges they may be facing. In addition to their regular presence throughout the school day, whether in Morning Meetings with students or periodic visits to advisories, for example, our counselors  routinely consult with teachers and advisors to support their interactions with Pingry students. The Counseling Department also organizes a number of events during the year, such as Lower School, Middle School and Upper School coffees with parents; student workshops focused on wellness skills and safety (both physical and mental); and more.

Academic and Social-Emotional Specialist
Pingry's Academic and Social-Emotional Specialist partners closely with key structures within the school in order to help integrate social and emotional learning into both existing and reimagined student support programs and services. A key element of this role is advancing community well-being initiatives and ensuring alignment and overall effectiveness of the student support program.

Learning Specialist 
Pingry strives to support all of our students and help them reach their full potential. Pingry's Learning Specialist works closely with students, teachers, and parents to better understand where a student is struggling. After better understanding where students require support, the Learning Specialist collaborates with individual students and their support teams to determine a plan for improvement in the specific areas of struggle.

Pingry also provides Official Accommodation Plans (OAPs) for students who are deemed to be eligible. OAPs provide testing accommodations for students whose disabilities interfere with their learning. 

Resources

• How to Accept That Holiday Gatherings Are Canceled
• Self-Care is Child-Care — 5 Ways to Address Parent Burnout
• Kids Are Anxious & Scared During the Pandemic. Here's How Parents Can Help
• Talking to Kids When They Need Help
• The Science of Gratitude podcast
• How to Ease Worries During COVID-19
• Executive Functions: Helping Kids Succeed at Remote Learning
• Teens, Young Adults, and Their Mental Health During COVID-19
• Fostering Resilience in the Time of COVID-19
• Keeping a Love for School Alive
• Will the Pandemic Have a Lasting Impact on My Kids?
• Self-Care Guide for Pingry Families

For additional resources, including book recommendations for students, parents, and employees, visit our Virtual Relaxation Room.

Events

• Tuesday, January 26 at 7:30 pm — Pingry families are invited to the Common Ground Speaks virtual event “Merely Bystanders: The Psychology of Courage and Inaction." Using empirical research from psychology and neuroscience, this talk examines the factors that lead most of us to stay silent in the face of bad behavior, and how the tendency to stay silent allows such acts to continue. Participation in this forum is free, but registration is required. For more information, please visit commongroundspeaks.org.
• Helping Your Child (Re)Adjust to Remote Learning—A recording of this event from November 24 is available. Learning Specialist Marcy Cohen hosted a discussion aimed at providing tips on how students can best organize their space and time and remain engaged in their virtual classrooms.  
• November 18—Pingry families were invited to the Common Ground Speaks event, with Amy Morin, LCSW, mental strength trainer and international bestselling author, who presented an engaging lecture on “How to Raise Mentally Strong Kids in Today’s World".
• October 27—Parents Connect with College Counseling and Student Support Services—Book Discussion and Author Talk: “Who Gets in And Why." A follow-up virtual event with the book's author, Jeffrey Selingo, took place on November 10.

Our Upper School Peer Group and Peer Leadership programs—in which selected seniors partner with groups of freshmen in a year-long mentoring capacity to help them navigate academic and social concerns—are enriching opportunities for students to share with and learn from one another. By connecting freshmen with seniors who have completed leadership training, students create new connections as they participate in non-adult led programming. Pingry faculty select peer leaders who are positive role models and can serve as trusted resources for younger Pingry students. Our goal is for all students to feel supported on campus and to provide them with additional mentors beyond their teachers and coaches.

In both the Middle School and Upper School, students can join Affinity Groups, which are designed to be safe spaces for students to learn more about their various identities and to discuss their questions, comments, and concerns with others who share that same identity. Affinity groups can help students feel supported by peers and adults in their community, as well as help them develop greater self confidence and feel connected to campus. 

Additionally, students play an active role in creating wellness-related programs on campus, through Pingry's Student Wellness Club, founded by Upper School students in 2018. Promoting the overall physical and mental well-being of Pingry students, club members plan events that address student needs; organize activities that focus on mental health education, prevention, and awareness; and work to reduce the stigma of mental illness. A sample of the club's activities include:

• Nature walks

• Yoga classes

• Therapy dog visits

• Participation in the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention's "Out of the Darkness" walk.

• Creation of a "Positivity Wall" on campus, where students spread positivity by writing notes of gratitude and inspiration for others to read.

• Participation as panelists at the 2020 inaugural Interscholastic Mental Health Conference, which involved sharing ideas with other schools around mental health on campus and talking about ways to make changes to school culture. 

Guiding students to discover the life balance that is right for them is an essential outcome of a Pingry education. A range of unique school features and programming are in place to ensure that their overall well-being—just like their intellectual growth— is an area of continual focus and development. 

Similarly, school administrators and faculty consistently remain open and willing to explore new wellness initiatives. 

Below are a few examples of the ways in which life balance is nurtured at Pingry:

• Flexible Scheduling: Block scheduling in the Middle and Upper Schools means that longer classes meet on a rotating basis, not everyday, and ample “flex” periods are built into the school day to ensure unhurried transitions between classes. In 2019, a later time of 8:30 a.m. was implemented for classes on our Basking Ridge Campus.

• Project Week: In place of final exams, at the end of the school year, Middle School students engage in a hands-on, multidisciplinary, culminating project experience known as Project Week.

• Getting Outside: Outdoor learning opportunities abound on our nearly 200-acre Basking Ridge Campus, which includes a kitchen garden, campsite, and outdoor classroom, as well as on our Short Hills Campus, which also boasts a garden, state-of-the-art playground, and surrounding woodlands that are used by classes.

• Anti-bullying Programs: In the Middle School, appropriate social media behavior and anti-bullying and violence prevention are addressed through such successful programs and visiting organizations as #winatsocial and Prepare, Inc. Upper School students also benefit from Prepare Inc. in learning boundary setting, how to diffuse uncomfortable or dangerous situations, how to report danger to an adult, and other important self-defense strategies.

• Decisions Course: Offered in all grades of the Lower School and year-long Decisions classes for Grade 4 and 5 students address important, non-academic skills, such as managing emotions, friendship skills, personal safety, conflict resolution, time management, problem-solving, and bullying prevention with peers. 

• Mindfulness: Mindfulness programming is woven throughout all three divisions: a mindfulness course in the Upper School, Mindfulness Club in the Middle School, and mindfulness and meditation sessions for Lower School students, faculty, and staff. 

• Surveys: Pingry administers the Authentic Connections Student Resilience Survey, which is an anonymous survey that assesses measures of student well-being and modifiable aspects of student life most relevant to the current climate. Pingry also administers the Independent School Health Check Survey every few years to ascertain the health and wellness of our student body, and to better understand areas for improvement so that school programming can be adapted accordingly.

• Connection and Community: Across school divisions, we offer a variety of wellness-related activities, such as yoga and mindfulness, Family Bingo Night, movie night, Hour of Wellness, Grandparents and Special Friends Day, and therapy dog visits incorporated throughout the school year; foosball and ping pong tables are staples of both the Middle and Upper School Commons, and well used during flex time!

• Leisure/Hobby Opportunities: In the Upper School, extracurricular and club offerings abound, including the Student Wellness Club, Outing Club, Book Appreciation Club, and Taiko Drumming, and, for example, Dance Club, Comic Book Club, and Film and Photography Club in the Middle School. An array of after-school enrichment classes are also offered each trimester at the Middle and  Lower School.

From fire safety and basic hygiene in the Lower School, to physical development, citizenship, decision-making, and substance abuse in the Middle School, to courses in Basic Life Support, First Aid, and Emergency Medical Responder certification in the Upper School, Pingry’s health education curriculum is designed to equip students with skills for emotional, social, and physical health. Students in all divisions learn techniques for problem-solving, relaxation, and stress management, with opportunities to practice these skills in a safe, supportive environment.

For details about our health curriculum for each division, please see below:

Lower School Middle School Upper School

Foundational to Pingry's student wellness programming is its Advisory program. Each Lower School student has a homeroom teacher who acts as the primary point of contact for the student’s family, which becomes especially relevant in the latter years of the Lower School when students have different teachers for each subject area. In Grade 5, the Advisory program involves students meeting three days a week in their homeroom and twice a week in a larger group to discuss issues such as adjusting to Grade 5, schedule and workload, and friendship issues.  

In the Middle and Upper Schools, students are assigned an advisor—a faculty or staff member—who serves as a family's primary point of contact throughout the school year. Advisors help their advisees negotiate an array of topics—from the academic program to the school’s social experiences and anything in between—that may be a source of concern for a student. Advisors are routinely in touch with their advisees’ teachers, coaches, and parents, and are available to facilitate assistance in situations when a student requires additional support. 

Beyond receiving individual support from their advisor, all Middle and Upper School students are also part of an advisory group. In the Upper School, students meet for 25 minutes per week during a dedicated advisory period to discuss a range of non-academic topics and build connections within a familial, supportive environment. In the Middle School, advisory is a daily, ungraded class, that, like its academic counterparts, follows a structured, grade-specific curriculum: Grade 6 examines kindness and community, Grade 7 focuses on leadership, and Grade 8 explores the question, "What do I stand for?" Middle School advisors also facilitate a close-knit group dynamic and guide student-led parent-teacher conferences, helping each student set individual goals and providing support and guidance toward meeting them throughout the year.

Pingry routinely welcomes outside speakers—experts in a variety of fields— and hosts assemblies across a wide range of timely topics. Below is a sampling of visitors to the Basking Ridge Campus, who, after their presentations, take time to speak in a more intimate setting with students, faculty, and staff.

• Peter Horn, Ed.D— Founder of Horn, LLC, former teacher, and administrator, spoke to faculty and staff about civil discourse, including issues related to the 2020 election.
• Dr. Lisa Damour, Ph.D–Psychologist, best-selling author, and New York Times monthly columnist, spoke to faculty and staff about how to manage stress and anxiety under COVID-19.
• Dr. Michael Thompson, Ph.D.–New York Times bestselling author of The Pressured Child, school consultant, and international speaker on the subjects of children, schools, and parenting.
• Sean Swarner–Inspirational pediatric cancer survivor who spotlights how perseverance and self-belief propelled him past obstacles to ultimately summit Mt. Everest.
• Dr. Joel Nunez–NJ-licensed psychologist, author, and public speaker who shares timeless insights about self care and burn out that resonate with learners of all ages
• Tony Hoffman–BMX Elite Pro and 2016 Olympic Games coach, who turned his life around after battling drug addiction, mental illness, and incarceration.
• Andrew Ominus–Successful college athlete who shared his personal story of struggle and recovery from depression and anxiety in a presentation for the non-profit organization, Minding Your Mind.
• Qwell Meditation & Wellness Studio—Provides monthly guided meditation sessions to Lower School faculty and staff.

• Fitness/Mindfulness Classes - For the 2020-2021 school year, we currently offer the following live classes: Yoga (Mondays), Qwell Meditation (Monthly on select Mondays), Zumba (Tuesdays), Mindfulness (Tuesdays), and High-Intensity Interval Training (HIIT) (Wednesdays). For more detailed information, including class times, please visit Pingry's Faculty & Staff Portal and look for the Group Fitness Classes link in the Big Blue Wellness section.

• Counseling and Support - Our weekly "Coffee with Colleagues" are supportive, informal spaces for colleagues to share and engage with one another about any challenges that they may be facing. These are also a nice way to just connect and spend time together.

• Professional Development - For a list of some of the professional growth workshops that have been offered recently, please see Professional Development tab below. 

In the spirit of modeling the wellness behaviors that we encourage our students to practice, Pingry's professional growth theme for the 2019-20 school year was Student Wellness: Educate 360.  A number of relevant workshops, held before the school day begins or during faculty/staff in-service day, provided firsthand opportunities to explore the topics of physical, mental, and intellectual wellness. A sample of some of the professional growth workshops that have been offered include:

• Civil Discourse

• Vaping Education and Update

• Mental Health Gatekeeper Training

• Managing stress and anxiety under COVID-19

• iWellness – Free Apps to Encourage Healthy Behaviors

• Keystone Habits and the Power of Exercise

• Finding a Balance

• Emotional First Aid in the Field

• Yoga

• Mindfulness Training

• CPR/AED Training

• Sleep 101

• Nursing 101

• Self Defense and Personal Safety

• Prepare, Inc.